Dearest darlingest Eden,
Mummy here! You know me and Mama have always made you a loving home. We love you more than anything in the world and you are everything our hearts wished for for so long.
You might think your family is great, and we are, but there’s something I need to tell you. You see, some people have a problem with two women having a baby. Some people have problems with love. They don’t like it when people are anything other than one man, one woman and 2.4 children. That’s the “ideal”, right? And I know we’ve told you for so long not to worry about what others think, but sometimes these people feel the need to say it out loud and that can hurt.
Your grandma always told me that “sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me”. That’s not necessarily true. Words can hurt a lot, especially when they’re talking about your family, your home and where you came from. The things that make you who you are – it hurts a lot when people are mean about those things.
As you grow older, you will hopefully notice that these comments are fewer and fewer. You’ll hear them less and less because people will start to realise that LOVE makes a family. It’s love that brings a child into the world and it’s love that raises them. And that’s what is important.
Unfortunately we are in a situation at the moment where even the President of the United States doesn’t believe in equal love. Slowly but surely, that filters down to people like the person on the street who felt it was necessary to abuse your mummies and you today. You’re too little to remember what happened, but I know it made me worry about when you were old enough to notice. No one should feel like that just from walking down the street. It’s called “homophobia”, which is silly really because these people aren’t scared. It’s not a phobia. It’s hatred. Ugly, vengeful hatred.
So, I wanted to write this to tell you something. No matter what anyone says or does, you are wonderful. You are perfect just the way you are and you did nothing wrong. It’s these small minded people that are the problem. The people who feel the need to point out or assume things about others. The people who just can’t keep their mouths shut but manage to keep their minds firmly closed to anything that isn’t “their” normal. Everyone is different, everyone is unique. But these people can’t see that and that is their problem, not yours.
Just keep being you, because you don’t have to justify yourself to anybody at all. You have parents who love you so very much and that is what’s important. We’ll always be by your side and we’ll always be your home. Rise above, be kind and remember that it’s not you – it’s them.
With all my love,
You can find my original post regarding homophobic abuse on my Facebook Page (feel free to like and share while you’re there!)